This morning, Geoff walked out the door and said "have a good day".....wait, what? Thinking to myself, "I have to do this two children thing on my own?"
So then it hit me, I really have taken Geoff for granted the past three days. I had my family here last week so everything seemed simple, and having Geoff here gave me time to be with the baby while he mostly cared for Paityn. Now, I am back to reality, doing 5 loads of laundry while caring for my 18 month old daughter who has a horrible attitude at the moment (probably because she doesn't like not being the center of our attention) and a newborn baby boy who seems to always be hungry or poopy, or wanting to be held!
So is this what it is like to be a stay at home mom? I really need some adjusting, because when it was just Paityn things seemed fairly easy. She has always been so independent and great just playing on her own. Now she wants to begin needing me more, while I have even more responsibilities. I love her, and I don't want to neglect her, but how do I do everything at once?
So, Geoff if you are reading this...I know it is difficult for you to not be stir crazy around the house while you are home, but I really wish you were back home with us...just a little longer, ok maybe A LOT longer!!
REALITY HAS HIT!
3.12.2009
Taken For Granted
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Joy, I promise you you will adjust and find a way to cope. One of the most important things is to remember to take time for Mama Joy.
Dont try to do everything Joy.
You will end up stressed and exhausted.
Leave everything that isnt important.
Be with your kids, see friends if you can and do enough laundry to get by, or better still get someone to do it for you.
Likewise dinner. Eat simply and as easily as you can.
I didnt follow those ideas when my second child was born and...well you dont need to know, but it was sound advice, I wish I had followed it. I did when the third one was born.
I imagine Geoff wishes he could be there more. Take it easy and give yourself some time, pace yourself.
Maybe Paityn would like to spend a night or two with grandma if you need a break. I'll bet she has a better attitude for her.
It is a big adjustment period.
Give it time and take care.
Off for an early night. Birthday girl tomorrow. ha!!
Boy, does that bring back memories, my daughter was three and newborn twins. My mom was there for awhile and then it was "reality strikes". You will do fine, take a deep breath, and take it thing at a time. You will find your system and get it done. Good luck with your beautiful babies.
You'll get the hang of it. I had my 2 year old asking me a lot to put the baby down. And then suddenly, he wasn't asking for that and was loving on his baby brother.
It all will click.
This time is fleeting.
It might not seem like it will ever be possible, but it gets easier. Husbands do help a lot. I don't know what I would have done without Johnny when I had Boston. I feel for you being thrown right back into mommyhood. Only advice, take everything one nap at a time...Even though Gennovah was only one I gave her lots of jobs that I rewarded with skittles most having to do with the baby, and that seemed to crave the tantrums and crying fits she had because I couldn't devote all my time to her...
Lovely picture! I wish I knew how to do cool photography like that!
And you guys will adjust fine. In not time at all Paityn will adore her brother.
(Make sure when someone brings a gift for Beck over you have something new to give Paityn too.. it'll help a lot. I did that for my nephew when he had got a new brother. )
Good luck with everything - you will get the hang of it soon.
Like the others have said - ask for help from friends and family and don't try to do everything.
Nancy
totally feel for you. it was a huge adjustment for me going from 1 to 2 kids.
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