Thank you all for your suggestions and insight on the matter I am dealing with. Just a little background to answer some of your questions:
it is the 5 year old I am having these problems with, so she really isn't old enough to take on the responsibility of remembering everything on her own.
also, about her abc's- I am really trying to help her, as is her teacher, but that only goes so far. I mean, pretty much before she started kindergarten she knew nothing, and now she is beginning to identify each letter.
for those who think i shouldn't overstep any boundries, and should not tell the parents what they are doing wrong...I am not trying to, and I would never tell them they are doing anything wrong (although I will parent much differently), but I am getting paid to help these girls succeed, because both of their parents work 50 + hours/week. I know that is sad, but that is why I am here!
for the least I am here 3 days, and the most 5 days.
I talked to the teacher today when I picked her up from school, and I told her I am trying the best I can, and that I don't know how much gets done when I am not here, and she replied, "thank you so much, you are awesome, and yeah, not much is getting done without you"!
Anyway...I talked to their mom last night about looking at her folder when I am not here, and she responded well. I also reminded her to sign and return the overdue permission slip, which she was grateful that I reminded her to do! I hope better things begin to happen from today and on....
I asked if I could make both girls a weekly schedule so that they, along with myself, and their parents know what they should be doing, and when. We will see if this helps at all.
Again, thank you
2.06.2008
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You are on the right track and I think you handled last night and today very well. My thought was about the parents, they are not interested enough to do much about caring for their children, (it seems to me,) so reminding them may help for the moment, but they will still depend on you to take care of things in their behalf. Someday they may realize that they are englecting their children and will be grateful for you. You are in a tough situation. Continue to do what you are doing and realize that the parents may continue to do the same as they have been doing as well. I love watching you with your little one and how good you are with her. You are doing a wonderful job and are so attentive to her. Paityn is one blessed little girl, and so are the little ones you care for.
You had better ideas than we gave you, but it sounds like you have the situation under control. It is one of the hardest and most rewarding raising children, and being nanny to children is just as important, and more difficult.
My son's ex does nothing to have my grandson do his homework, so every two weeks, my son spends all weekend helping him catch up. He says it is the only way he can think of helping him.
Alot of things have changed since I raised kids, but trying to balance school, homework,sports,and family has not.
That's great you were able to talk to the teacher and the Mom and sounded like both went well. The weekly schedule is something similar I was thinking of - and sounds like a great idea - hopefully that will be enough to help with the reminders. Those kids are lucky to have someone who is so caring and concerned to be their nanny. Your daughter is lucky too.
Thanks to you for letting strangers not only read your blog but encourage us to post.
Nancy
Joy,
Your blog is so cute! I love seeing your pics. And...it sounds like you're doing a great job.
Hi,
I would like to get more information about this very interesting case and the role you play in it.
Unless I am wrong, these girls and this girl, in particular, is developmentally delayed, for whatever reason and you are primarily in a mentoring - modeling role for these girls. Am I close? As such, your job is probably more important than you know.
I am a counselor and will tell you that the best successes in these cases are where there is intensive care (in the sense of emotional support rather than medical attention) and loving care. It is vital that the protocol is consistent and on schedule. Even one day due to absence in the early stages can cause a significant set back.
Hang in there. You are doing God's work.
I am so glad this worked out for you. The previous blogger may be on the right track. although the child is picking up things. Making a schedule and all will help, but hopefully they will not depend on you for more.
I am so glad these two little girls have you for their nanny. You are an awesome person to be taking on this and raising your little girl too.
As a teacher-I applaude you and am greatful for people like you when they are in children's lives when the parents that had them seems to think that money is more important than raising their own children. For whatever reason they chose to have them and work too. I am not one to judge, however their child is suffering because of it. Thank goodness they have such a kind hearted and caring individual who is their for them.
Take care and keep us posted so we can help you.
Don't ever feel like you are alone and can always ask for some advice.
Lori in Alaska
I am glad that you got everything taken care of for now. It is just a bandaid over the sore, but hopefully you can help her out! As for the sign, we figured we get more interest from the street if people were driving by. I freaked out when it went up, but I am used to it now. If it sells then we move, if not then we stay. Not planning on going anywhere for a little while yet, but it doesn't hurt to see what kind of interest is out there. We almost had an offer on Tuesday, but the couple didn't realize it was a one car garage :( Not much we can do about that! We'll see what happens, but we are sticking around!
What a wonderful nanny you are to care so much for the well being of these children. Paityn is a lucky little girl to have such a caring mother. It is so sad that you have to remind the mother to check her child's folder and that she can't remember to do this on her own. I work in the school system in NC and we see so much non involvment of parents and it hurts the child in the long run. These girls are very, very lucky to have you in their lives. Sounds to me as if you are on the right track.
I enjoy reading your blog and hope you don't mind. You do a great job!
Hopefully things will go upwards now with the children , thanks to you , you seem to be a very caring person , as all the Osmonds are !
i enjoy readng your blog, you have a beautiful baby girl. it makes me wish my kids where still babies, although at the time i found it really stressful, i had 3 in three years. as for the children you look after, i wouldn't like to be in your shoes, you never know what the parents are thinking, and sometimes you cant do right for doing wrong.
Joy, Did I miss a previous post on this? I feel like everyone has more insight than I do. Anyway, I feel for you. It sounds like you are in a tough situation, but I am impressed that you want to help so much. Have you every tried starfall.com with the girls? It really is a great site to help with reading. Just a thought..
There is no end to different ways to learn, each of us is so unique. Here are some constructive suggestions.
My daughter loved t.v., so everything we watched was educational (Leapstart Letter Factory & series were a crucial learning tool for us).
But more than anything, we brought the alphabet, spelling, and words into our lives. The world is our classroom. When she asked for milk, we sounded the word out and figured out what letter it began with and what letter it ended with. In the car, she tells me the first letter of the store we are going to, and tried to guess the shopping list from the first sounds or vowels.
Then, as she became more comfortable with small words, when we I read to her, she would follow along and take turns with some words she could sound out.
It grew to each of us reading one side of the page, and eventually she could read it by herself.
My daughter is 5 years old and is reading at a 3-5th grade level. I've been asked many times how she learned. Mostly it was just her, but I learned a bit too.
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